ep 50: ADHD & Intuition: Aligning Your Life with Tarot Reader Sarah Tye

Are you looking to align your life and work with your ADHD strengths and intuition? In this enlightening episode, Sarah Tye, an intuitive tarot reader and entrepreneur with ADHD, shares her journey of embracing neurodiversity and finding alignment in life and business.

Discover how tapping into your intuition, embracing authenticity, and aligning your actions with your values can lead to personal and professional fulfillment.

What you'll learn:

• How to align your work with your strengths

• Techniques for tapping into your intuition for personal growth

• Strategies for overcoming challenges as an employee with ADHD

• The power of authenticity and alignment in life and work

• Healing from past beliefs and traumas

• Using curiosity as a tool for self-discovery

• Sarah's unique "Alignment Project" and how it can help you

"Living in alignment is when you're basically spending your energy on things that feel like you, feel good to you, that light you up." - Sarah Tye

Throughout this episode, Sarah offers practical advice and personal insights to help you leverage your ADHD traits and intuition for success. By implementing the strategies discussed, you'll gain the tools needed to navigate life transitions and find work that celebrates your strengths.

Useful Links Mentioned:

• Sarah's website: spiritjourneycollective.com

• Sarah's podcast: "Spirit Journey Collective"

• Sarah's Instagram: @spirit_journey_collective
  

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• Learn more about private coaching with Mande: https://www.learntothrivewithadhd.com/getcoached
  

No matter how challenging your current situation may seem, this episode is a powerful reminder that embracing your neurodiversity and intuition can lead to profound personal growth. Start aligning your life with your authentic self today, and watch as your perceived challenges become your greatest assets.

Share your biggest takeaways and "aha" moments from this episode with us in the comments or on our social media channels. We're here to support and celebrate your progress!

Remember: By embracing your ADHD traits, tapping into your intuition, and aligning your actions with your values, you can transform potential challenges into strengths. Your current circumstances don't have to define your future. With the right mindset and tools, you have the power to thrive in a life that truly fits you.

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All right. Welcome back, guys. Today we are here with Sarah, Tye, and Sarah is an entrepreneur and she will introduce herself and tell us a little bit about that.

But we are going to talk about some interesting things with her today. Sarah, do you want to introduce yourself? Yeah, thank you for having me. My name is Sarah Tye and I am a intuitive tarot reader, which I know is a unique the unique work that I do. But I'm excited to be here and share, I guess, my story in dealing with ADHD.

All right. When you say intuitive tarot reader, tell us what that means. Yeah. So most people think of tarot and they think of like predictive readings and Hollywood, which by the way, it's none of those things. Most of most readers are more of an intuitive like, like me. But intuitive just means that it's a combination of the card, the card meetings, the card placement, and then whatever I'm getting in the reading, too, because your time shifts.

Exactly. Okay. For me, I've learned that I'm more of a channel, so that's something I'm actually kind of playing with, should I say, intuitive or should I say channel? Because most of the time I just start talking. It's the best way to describe it. I just start talking and the things that need to come up, come out, come out, and it's not for me.

I do not take credit. It's higher power is showing up for the person I'm setting with. So I guess that's what I mean by intuitive is it's not it's not something that I'm picking up. I'm not all knowing. I'm just the conduit. Yeah. Okay. So I had an intuitive tarot reading. When we go every year, we go to a cabin in Prescott, Arizona, and we were walking through downtown Prescott, which is just so cute.

But we were with my family and we were walking through and there was this place to get tarot readings and this. I've never done that before and I was just curious. And she was definitely an intuitive tower reader because it was. And what was so interesting is she did the reading and my husband and I had a couples one and then we had our separate ones and my son did it as well.

And when she did the reading, she told me that I needed to get rid of somebody that was being difficult and I won't go into that. But I listened and I did it and it has been amazing. I like the people that replaced this person are so wonderful and it was just like kind of a thorn in my side that I just kept dealing with because I didn't know what else to do.

But when she had given me the information she gave me, I turned to my husband and I was like, I've got to get rid of this person. And I did. And it's been wonderful. So that was my first experience with that. It was very interesting for my son. It was it was very spot on as well. And so I, I don't have a lot of experience with tarot, but my first experience was wonderful that I wanted to talk about your journey to being an entrepreneur and making your own money.

YouTube When we were talking before, you were telling me about your experience as an employee, you want to tell people about that. Yeah. So I've been an entrepreneur now for about five years, so up until I see I'm 35 now. So I guess I guess I've been an employee off and on for like a decade, I guess, give or take.

And I just always felt like I wasn't good enough. I always felt like I was doing something wrong. And it wasn't that I was purposely trying to not care about my job or my work. I was always showing up, doing my best, but I always just felt like I was subpar. Maybe I missed directions that was given on something that I didn't mean to miss, but I was doing what I thought it was supposed to be doing.

Or one of the biggest struggles that I had was showing up on time, and it wasn't ever crazy late. Like, I mean, I've seen people who show up like ten, 15 minutes late consistently. It was never like that. It was like 3 to 5 minutes late. But it was like, no matter how hard I tried and I tried every morning to, like, get there on time, I was always a couple of minutes late and it was so stressful.

And then of course I was getting reprimanded, which did not. I'm not a big fan of shame. Of shame or reprimands in general, even as a parent, because I don't think it does anything for anybody. But it was just I just constantly felt like I was failing as an employee no matter how hard I tried to be better or do better.

And then I got a taste of entrepreneurship and it just blew my mind because it was the first time I realized that way. I'm not a terrible employee, or maybe I am a terrible employee, but I'm not. Not on purpose. And I can in the right environments, I can thrive. Yeah, Yeah. Okay. And then you were mentioning that, like your first step into that was like Uber.

Yeah. And then you've done some things since then and now you have your, your auto business. And so with your retail business, what do you do? Do you do like readings online? How does that work? Yeah, so I do online readings. Most of, most of my work is online. So like Zoom or over phone calls, but I'll do one on one sessions and that is like 30 minute hour sessions where people ask me questions as time allows.

I also do email readings, which is more convenient if like someone can't schedule time with me or maybe they'd rather not work with me directly, but they still have questions and it's the same quality, it's just not the live interaction. And then I also so everything I would say, everything is online except for I also do events. So locally someone can hire me for corporate weddings, bachelorette parties, birthday parties.

If you have an event, you can hire me for it, whatever it is. And so I do that too. Okay, so lots of variety in the way that you work, which is great for an ADHD brain, right?

How do you think that your ADHD helps you as an entrepreneur? So I only recently was diagnosed about three years ago, but in the entrepreneur world I can definitely see how it helps me. I look outside the box, I don't look at things in any kind of constraint. And I'm also really good at what I'm looking for, redirecting myself, which interestingly enough, as an employee, I think because I felt like things were so structured and that you had to do it a certain way, and if you didn't do it a certain way, you were wrong.

So I didn't feel like I had the freedom to course correct if something didn't work. But as an entrepreneur, I really feel like one of my superpowers is like, that didn't work. Was try something else that didn't work, let's try something else. And being able to just like keep going and find different routes without feeling like there's a right way to do it.

And so I think that's probably one of the biggest things. And then also the fact that I don't I don't want to subscribe to any time frame. I mean, if someone's hiring me for a party, that's completely different because it's like a one day thing where I have to be there at a certain time or like when someone schedules are reading with me.

But it's every day is different. And I think that that part is really great too, because as an employee, it's the same day, same thing same day over and over and over and around. I don't like that. Yeah. And so as a entrepreneur with ADHD, I love the variety of it. I never know what my day is going to bring.

I could literally start a day with nothing on the books and have a really profound reading that just comes in the afternoon and it's just I wasn't expecting it, but it was now it's fun and I get to just take it for what it is. Yeah. Yeah. The word that you used when we were talking before was perseverance.

I thought that was such a good way to put it

so what would you say to people? I'm always talking to people that want to get out of like corporate or out of the 9 to 5. What would you say to those people that are afraid to do that? So I'm will, as I would say before we press record here, I'm always a little careful in how I respond to that, because especially with ADHD, we tend to struggle with impulsiveness and we tend to struggle with financial stability.

So I don't want to say just quit your job and jump in. Take that leap of faith unless you have the means to do it. If you have the means to do it, then I would say the best thing is to just go for it because the hardest thing to do is taking that leap and then figuring it out.

And I guarantee you that, especially if you struggle with ADHD, you will find your superpowers really quickly. If you do that, because you will have the freedom to allow what you're good at to come forward and what you're not so good at to kind of fall away. Because I think when we work for employees, we're told so much what we're not so good at.

Like a lot of the times, employers will focus on the bad and they don't focus on your strengths, they focus on your weaknesses, which does not help with mindset or self-esteem or any of those things, especially if you struggle with some of those basic things. Yeah. And so, you know, I do think that if you are able to take that leap, then you are financially stable and it's possible, go for it.

But if it's not possible, don't feel like you have to take that leap of faith. And if you don't, especially let's say you don't even know what it is yet, you just know you want something else. I always suggest like, get curious, make maybe make a list of all the things that you're curious about that you want to try that maybe you think you would love doing.

And the little taste test of each of the things and see if any of them are calling to you. But I would say you kind of build it up on the side before you take that leap and make sure you're financially able to to do that. But yeah, for me, I was, as I told you, I was kind of thrown into it, so I didn't really get a chance to do that, that healthy blend.

But like I said, the moment you start being in an environment where you're working for yourself, you get to start seeing your strengths. And I think that that's one of the biggest differences between your typical employee workplace and working for yourself is that in a typical employee workplace, there is a box that you have to fit into. There is standards and rules and things that that, you know, maybe don't even make sense to you, but you have to follow because it's someone else's construct versus when you're doing it on your own, you get to make that rule for yourself.

So you get to figure out what works for you and what doesn't and then thrive and what works for you. Okay. One thing that we were talking about, I loved the way you put purpose. I love talking about purpose because I feel like with coaching I found my purpose. And so tell us your definition of purpose. I'd love to.

So even I have my own podcast called Spirit Journey Collective, where that's what we talk about all the time, all day long. All my people I work with so hard, you know, interview and everything. I just love purpose. So my definition of purpose is it's something that lights you up. It's something that you love. You can do it all day long, and if you could, you do it for free.

Of course, if we didn't have to put a roof over our heads. Right. Like you just love it that much, but it gives back to the world in some way. And so sometimes people think that that immediately means it has to be like coaching or something in service or, you know, something that you are actually giving physically giving back in some way.

But it could be, as we were talking about before we press record, it could be artists, entertainers, it could be even, it could even be in the construct of a 9 to 5. If it's something that you love doing and you're, you know, and you're putting whatever you're doing is helping other people. I like to use the example of an artist because some people are like, Well, how is an artist putting, you know, what are they doing to put out in their world?

And it's like their art. You take an artist who makes a beautiful painting and then they sell it, someone buys it, puts it in their living room, and now that's their muse. When they get up in the morning, you know, that's their contribute to the world. So it can come in so many different forms. But the biggest thing is it's like it lights you up and it gives back at the same time.

Yeah, very good. I love that one thing that we started to talk about, but we didn't go into it very much was healing and tell us about it. Tell us about healing and how you've healed. You mentioned like how our past affects us now and that's the importance of healing. Yeah, that's a big one. So I know scientifically they say that when the by the time we reach age seven, all of our beliefs are pretty much solidified and it's, it's in our subconscious.

And so a lot of times we're operating as adults from belief systems that go back to our childhood to beliefs that, for instance, I'm too loud, I'm not good enough, I'm this, I'm that. And these are like core beliefs that are buried in our subconscious. And then we're operating as adults with the same belief systems even. And it's crazy because even if you think you're telling yourself like, yeah, no, I'm, I don't believe that.

But are your behaviors matching that, you know, are your behaviors matching the belief of self-worth or is it matching something like I'm not good enough? And so it's a huge, huge undertaking. But I learned a lot about healing when I stepped into my spiritual work, which happened before I slide into tarot professionally. But I was listening to this podcast called Expanded, and they talk a lot about inner child work, shadow work and neuroplasticity, which is changing your neuro pathways and your and basically your belief systems.

And so your belief systems are the way that they describe. And I think this is, you know, again, I'm not a scientist by any means, but they talk about how our beliefs, it becomes a neural pathway. So the neurons just take that path because it's so familiar, and especially if you've had this belief since childhood, it's a very familiar path for these neurons.

So when you actually take the time to do healing, which can come in the form of meditation, self hypnosis, journaling, I mean it's really just about getting mindful and about getting aware because you can't change anything unless you're Michael or aware of something that's holding you back. So once you're able to get in that state of being aware, then you could start doing affirmations or changing those belief systems.

I know with with expanded specifically their workshops and then hypnosis, they have you go back and take a difficult situation where where you picked up some core beliefs and change it, give yourself what you needed back then that you didn't get now. So are you that you did that at the time and can go back and repair it yourself basically.

So doing that work for myself has been huge because it's helped me learn boundaries. It's helped me learn my worth and my confidence. And I mean, granted, I still have a ways to go, but compared to how I was before I started this healing work, I wasn't ready to really run my own business and do the work that I'm doing now.

I wasn't ready because I wasn't healed and then I was able to do that. So I think that healing is a big thing because it helps you really reconnect with who you are at your core, not who the world told you to be. Yeah. And that that belief work. Like I like to say that our beliefs are just thoughts that we've decided are true and we get to choose what we believe, especially about ourselves.

And one fun thing that my mentor says this, she's like, You can just believe that you're fantastic and nobody can argue with you. And I was like, I think we can do that, can't we? But I agree. Like those things kind of get ingrained in childhood. And so that's it's very interesting too. Like you mentioned before, like getting curious, getting curious about why why we're getting the results that we're getting, like what are we believing about situations or about ourselves or about our abilities that are getting us the results that we're getting and that's what Sotomayor is dealing with and coaching, right, as we're trying to get different results.

And I'm very careful with my clients, like don't believe you can't because you will make that true. And so we have to we have to believe that we can. That's just one example.

Curiosity is is that space of basically being an investigator and sometimes, especially when it comes to beliefs, painful beliefs, right? People, beliefs that we buried as a child because we didn't want to we didn't want to look at that anymore. It could be one of those things where, you know, you'd rather just not. And so when you look at it from a place of curiosity or you're an investigator, you give the kind of thing you can even imagine putting on like an inspector hat, right?

Like, okay, we're going we're going to just go and see what we need to know, what we need to find out and looking at it more from like a place of wonderment. Because if you look at kids like they like when you look at a child who's just playing and they're just curious, they are in the state of anything is possible.

They're just trying. They're just here for the right to see where it takes them versus I think as adults, we want to analyze it so we can understand it. But that puts but that's when you start putting things in boxes in your mind. So I feel like that curiosity piece gives you that freedom to kind of see really, what is it?

What is it that's holding you back? What is it that's making this belief feel so impossible? How can we look at this from a different perspective? But you have to be curious and open enough to know there is a different perspective. Yeah, and what I like to say with curiosity is you have to answer the questions. If you just ask the question but don't genuinely answer the question, then people can tend to get stuck in confusion.

One thing that a lot of people like to say that I work with is like, Well, why am I this way? And when they just ask that question but don't answer the question, it just it becomes a hindrance. It just keeps them stuck. And so, yeah, when you're getting curious, answer your own questions. And I love that you you talked about intuition because we know like that's that's my work as a coach is like not telling them what to do but pulling from them what they should do for themselves, what they know they should do for themselves.

Absolutely. In fact, I wanted to speak to it earlier when you were talking about your first tarot experience and how this person, you know, the reader told you, hey, there's a person that's pretty toxic in your life that needs to go. And you knew exactly who that was. You don't have to think about it. It wasn't, you know, something they were like, I wonder who that is.

You were like, yeah. And so I love that because so when I do readings for people, most of the time they haven't. If they're not familiar with, with getting a reading, they expect me to tell them something that they, that they don't know. And what I end up telling them is something that I shouldn't know. And it's really because it's what they need to here right now.

And so it's not exactly what you said with intuition. It's it's something that they already know. I'm not telling them something that they don't know. I'm talking about. They already know either. They're aware of it and they're working through it or they're aware of it and they're sleeping under the rug because they don't want to deal with it, but it's still there.

And so, in fact, if you see a lot of different readers or even the same one, a lot of the times the same things will be coming up because it's like spirit tapping on the shoulder, like, Hey, hey, this is it. This is the focus point. This is where you need to put your energy to heal. And so intuitively, most time we do know that.

But I think we don't listen because we're constantly taught to look outside of us for answers when most of the time the answers that we need are already within us. Yeah, yeah. And when we were talking earlier, before we started recording, you mentioned like with tarot, your experience of like being kind of told that you should do it, but saying no to it.

I have experienced that so many times where like my intuition or whatever you want to say, your higher power, whatever it might be, is telling me do this and I'm like, No. And it just keeps coming back if you don't listen. So that was really interesting.

We're not taught as a society to listen to our intuition. We're just not we're taught to regurgitate what we learn and we're taught to do what we're told to do. We're not really taught to listen then. And so a lot of times we can even confuse our intuition with our ego and our egos, our mind, our ego is that stories and narratives and so intuition will often come in as a tap on the shoulder, and usually the tap gets a little more persistent.

If you ignore it, but it's just a tap on the shoulder and then it goes away. It's just like, Hey, pay attention, and then it goes away, whereas the ego will actually ruminate. So if you find yourself ruminating on something, thinking it's your intuition, it probably isn't, that's your mind trying to make sense of whatever it is. Whereas the intuitive part will be like, Hey, pay attention.

And the thing that I love too. So when you when it's your intuition trying to speak to you and when your intuition is is really trying to gauge you, it's not going to steer you wrong. And so what I love to do is sometimes you might be called into something that you say yes to and then you think, this is it, this is what I'm supposed to be doing, and then it turns into something else.

It's like, that was a stepping stone. And when you look back in hindsight, so I think learned to listen inward and listen to ourselves is is a I felt like it's such a disservice that we most of us were never taught to do that. And now as adults, we're either snuffing it out or we're trying to figure out what that voice sounds like.

But I think that whether you have ADHD or not, like any anyone out there, we all have intuition. Like, you know, when you hear about psychic abilities, things like that, we all have it. Like, that's not something that only special people have. It's just some people are more sensitive or more in tune with it than others. But we all have that ability and that's what intuition is.

It's basically your connection to higher power. And so I think remembering that, you know, there's something else bigger than us guiding us if we allow it to, and being able to listen to it and not always seeking the answers outside of us for approval and know it's another big one. This, for me personally, especially with ADHD, is there is that part of me that I like to say I'm a recovering people pleaser.

You know, it's that idea of like, well, I'm being called to do this, but they're telling me I should do this, you know, and kind of feeling like that warrant, like, should I do what they're telling me? Because, you know, I don't know if I trust myself, but they seem to know what they're doing and it's learning how to kind of center yourself and realizing like, what feels good to you, what feels right to you, and maybe it aligns with what you're being given as advice, or maybe it doesn't, but being able to call it for yourself and then make those steps forward.

Yeah, very good.

So one thing that we want to talk about here is authenticity. So I'm going to let you take it away. Yeah. So and I do have a new offering called the Alignment Project, which I can share more in a bit.

But I think especially for those who struggle with ADHD, often learning what your authenticity is and learning how to be true to yourself is one of those things that I think we probably struggle with more being neurodivergent, whereas those are more neurotypical, they kind of it's easier for them to fit into society's box and feel more normal. Whereas those of us who are neurodivergent, we just struggle to contort ourselves into that box.

So even though we probably have all tried it. And so one thing that I've learned, especially with my spirituality, the work that I'm doing now, is how important it is to be yourself. And this goes for neurotypical people too. They're just it's just easier for them to conform than it is for for those of us with ADHD by being able to be true to yourself and living in alignment.

And so what that looks like is when you're making decisions that align with your belief systems, that align with your with your values. When you have people in your life that build you up and make you feel like you like you feel like yourself at your core, versus being surrounded by people who are trying to make you be someone you're not.

And so living in alignment is when you're basically spending your energy on things, whether it's your thoughts or your physical, like your what you're physically doing, you're spending it on things that feel like you to feel good to you, that light you up. And and I like to say you know, it's not that you're fitting in someone else's box.

You're creating your own shape that's malleable. Because another thing about humans is we change, we evolve, we're supposed to. And so, again, if we create our own shape and like, stay in it, okay, maybe that shape is good for now, but eventually that shapes probably going to shift. And so learning how to again, it comes back to your intuition in a big way too, is when you're all conscious yourself, you're basically learning how to just follow what feels good to you, what feels like you, and what feels like you're living in alignment.

And then when things are off. And I think that, you know, living alignment is a day to day thing and sometimes even the best of hustle or who know how, you know, who knows what that feels like to be in alignment, even like everyone has the ability to kind of get lost and get a little bit askew, you know?

So checking with your yourself and being like, is my environment aligned with me? Is my partner aligned with me as my friendships is my, you know, all of this and being able to check in with yourself and making sure that you're still choosing you and being true to yourself. But my my new offering called The Alignment Project is like a combination of a tarot reading and then creating tangible, actionable steps to help my clients work forward so that I love as much as I love tarot.

And I do and you know, and I love doing one on one basic readings, you know, basic tarot readings. They're they can sometimes they're very energetic, they can be vague. And while like nine times out of ten, they know exactly what I'm talking about. They're like, my gosh, I told you to work on that. I need to hear that.

Thank you so much. I hear that all the time. There's always this part of me that wanted to give like, wish I could give them more because once they leave my table, what they do with the information is what they do with the information. Like, you know, it's their choice for, well, all of that. So with alignment project, it allows me to give them something a little more tangible.

So first we do a reading and we focus on like a certain block or a thing that's holding them back. And then from there we focus on based on what came through the reading actionable steps, and it's curated to that because so each card A created the actual actual steps for each cart that are different, you know, so that way because you know, we're all especially those with ADHD, we have a lots of variety, right?

So we would go over, okay, so this is it. This is the invitation around this card. So these are actionable steps that could help you move forward and then picking together which one feels possible and right to the person I'm working with. And then I basically create I like to call it a roadmap, like an actual PDF document that I get to them with journal prompts and the actionable steps that we've talked about.

So they have a little bit more to go with than just the information that comes through. Yeah, And so and the whole purpose of that is to help help them find and reconnect with themselves a little deeper than they were before. I love I love this message on alignment because with my clients, oftentimes what I will do is when everything feels like too much, I have them like decide on four buckets is what I call them and what these buckets are.

You mentioned values over here and my notes, alignment and values. But what these buckets are, it's like what matters to them the most? And if they are working on the four things that matter to them most and making taking action towards that every day, they feel so good. And so I love this project that you've put out into the world because you're doing the same thing essentially as are you're getting them aligned with what matters to them and taking action.

Yeah, absolutely. Because I think that the action piece is the hardest. It's the, you know, what do I do? How do I get to this next stage?

Sarah, where can people find you if they want to work with you or if they want to take advantage of your alignment project? Where can they find you? My website is a spirit journey collective.com and you can find my readings on there. You can find the alignment project, you'll find my podcast as well, which is also called Spirit Journey Collective.

And then even locally, if you are looking for some entertainment that's different but meaningful, you can also find information on that as well. And then I'm also on I am on Facebook, but not a whole lot. So the one I like to give out social media wise is Instagram. I'm on that. That's where you'll find me most active and feel free to message me if I have any questions.

Clinical. That tarot is like a huge subject a lot of people are either afraid of or curious about, so please feel free to reach out for questions if you just want to ask me questions and kind of connect that way. But yeah, that's how you can get a hold of me. And did you say what your Instagram is?

thank you. It's @spirit_journey_collective. Very good. And we'll have that in the show notes and it might pop up on the screen as well. But thank you so much for being with me today. I appreciate you sharing your perspective and all your information. Yeah, thank you for having me. This has been really great.