ep 99: 5 Essential Routines for ADHD Adults (That Make Life Actually Work)

Ever feel like you’re always behind, always reacting, and never really ahead of your day? Coach Mande was there too – juggling two businesses with zero real routines in place.

In this episode, she breaks down the 5 essential routines that transformed her ADHD life from chaos and catch-up to calm control. These aren’t rigid schedules – they’re freedom-creating systems that work WITH your brain, not against it.

Key Quote

“You can’t be mentally healthy without routines. Routines don’t add more work – they organize what already needs to happen.”

Quick Exercise

Ask yourself: If every day were the same, what would you need to do to feel caught up?

List things like: meals, movement, cleaning, medications, work tasks, self-care, planning.

Then: Look for where these naturally fit into the 5 routines below.

The 5 Essential Routines

๐ŸŒ™ Evening Routine – Start Tomorrow Tonight
  • Wind down and reduce stimulation
  • Prep something for tomorrow
  • Coach Mande’s: Dinner โ†’ tidy counters โ†’ feed animals โ†’ bath + TV โ†’ audiobook to sleep
โ˜€๏ธ Morning Routine – Start Strong and Steady
  • Include something you look forward to
  • Break down “get ready” into specific steps
  • Coach Mande’s: Wake up โ†’ 30 min free time โ†’ get ready โ†’ 30 min cleaning
๐Ÿ—‚๏ธ Planning Routine – Cut Overwhelm Before It Starts
  • Review calendar
  • Pick 1-3 key priorities
  • Block time
  • Check upcoming obligations
๐Ÿง  Work Routine – Open and Close with Intention
  • Start: Brain sweep โ†’ review calendar โ†’ open tools โ†’ tidy space โ†’ start timer
  • End: Brain sweep โ†’ note tomorrow’s pickup point โ†’ quick messages โ†’ tidy โ†’ shut down
๐Ÿงน Reset & Tidy – Visual Clarity = Mental Clarity
  • Set 10-minute timer
  • Clear counters, toss trash, put things away
  • Tie to trigger: after dinner, before bed, end of workday

Why Routines Work for ADHD

  • Reduce decision fatigue
  • Put important stuff on autopilot
  • Free up mental space for what matters
  • Create freedom, not rigidity

Implementation Tips

  1. Start with ONE routine (evening recommended)
  2. Write it down – don’t rely on memory
  3. Break into specific steps to prevent wandering
  4. Expect initial discomfort – it gets easier
  5. Evolve as needed – routines aren’t permanent

Weekend Strategy

Keep wake/sleep times consistent, plan 1-2 fun activities, use routines to set up your week (not recover from it).

Free Resource

Complete Workbook: Step-by-step routine builders + customization guide

Download: https://www.learntothrivewithadhd.com/routine

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