You’re ready for some help with your ADHD. Then you hit another decision. Do you need an ADHD coach? A therapist? Both?
One explanation I hear all the time is that therapy focuses on the past and coaching focuses on the future. I’ve never liked that explanation, because it isn’t accurate. Therapy can be very focused on what’s happening in your life right now. And coaching can involve looking at past experiences to understand your patterns.
The real differences have more to do with the type of work being done and the professional’s role. Here’s how I’d think it through.
Start With What You Need Help With
Rather than trying to decide which professional sounds better, start with the problem you want help solving.
Say you’re doing pretty well overall. But you have a hard time getting started on things, you keep underestimating how long tasks will take, and your planning systems never seem to last. Those are the kinds of challenges an ADHD coach can help you work through.
Now a different situation. You’ve been feeling depressed for weeks, your sleep has changed, and you’re struggling to get through the day. Here, the priority is getting appropriate mental health care. A licensed therapist or another qualified healthcare professional can evaluate what’s happening and help you get treatment.
The difference isn’t how successful you are or how much you’re struggling on the outside. Someone can have a successful career and still be dealing with serious depression or anxiety. And someone can be completely overwhelmed by their schedule without having a mental health condition that needs treatment. It’s about the kind of help you need.
What an ADHD Coach Helps With
Every Monday, you make a plan and feel good about the week. By Wednesday, you’re behind. Emails took longer than expected, meetings ran long, and the big project hasn’t gotten much attention.
Telling yourself to manage your time better doesn’t give you much to work with. In coaching, we’d look at where the plan is breaking down. We might find that you’re scheduling eight hours of work into an eight-hour day, even though two or three of those hours go to meetings and other people’s needs. Of course you’re not getting everything done.
From there, we can figure out how much focused time you actually have, plan for interruptions, and review how it went at the next session. That’s ADHD coaching: working on the skills, decisions, and systems you use to manage everyday life.
What a Therapist Helps With
A therapist is a licensed mental health professional who helps people with emotional, psychological, and behavioral concerns. Depending on their training and specialty, they may treat conditions like anxiety, depression, and trauma-related disorders.
And therapy can be very practical. It isn’t only sitting on a couch talking about your childhood. A therapist who uses cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), for example, may help you recognize patterns in your thoughts and behaviors, develop coping skills, and learn new ways to respond to difficult situations. Some therapists specialize in ADHD and work on procrastination, organization, routines, and time management.
The important difference is that therapists have the training and licensing to provide mental health treatment within their scope of practice. ADHD coaching, by itself, doesn’t provide that kind of treatment.
Where Coaching and Therapy Overlap
Emotions come up in coaching all the time. A client might tell me, “I was supposed to start this project three weeks ago, and I still haven’t done anything. I’m so frustrated with myself.” We can absolutely talk about that frustration and figure out what’s keeping them from starting.
That conversation involves emotions without becoming mental health treatment. But if the same client is having persistent anxiety, panic attacks, or depression that’s interfering with their ability to function, that’s a different situation. Those symptoms need to be assessed and, when appropriate, treated by a qualified healthcare professional. A coach can be supportive, but support isn’t the same thing as clinical treatment.
The overlap goes the other way too. Therapists who specialize in ADHD can work on planning, follow-through, and emotional regulation. So the difference isn’t emotions versus actions. It’s the professional’s role, their qualifications, and whether the work involves treating a mental health condition.
The Same Problem Can Have Different Causes
Imagine two people who are both missing deadlines at work.
The first person has trouble estimating how long projects will take and waits too long to start. An ADHD coach could help them break projects into smaller steps, improve their time estimates, and track progress before a deadline gets urgent.
The second person has a reasonable plan. But every time they sit down to work, they feel intense anxiety and spend hours second-guessing themselves. A therapist can assess those symptoms and help treat the underlying problem.
Same behavior, different help. And someone could be dealing with both. You don’t have to diagnose yourself. A qualified professional can help you sort through it.
You Can Work With Both
There’s no rule that you have to choose. You could see a therapist for anxiety and an ADHD coach for your schedule and follow-through. The two can complement each other. With your permission, the professionals can also coordinate when that’s useful. Your needs can also change over time.
How to Decide Where to Start
Ask yourself: What am I struggling with, and what kind of help am I looking for?
- If you know what you want to do but can’t turn your intentions into action, ADHD coaching could be a good option.
- If you’re dealing with depression, significant anxiety, trauma-related symptoms, or other mental health concerns that affect your ability to function, start with an evaluation from a licensed mental health or healthcare professional.
- If you’re having suicidal thoughts or are concerned about your immediate safety, seek urgent mental health support (call or text 988 in the U.S.) rather than relying on coaching.
- If it’s both, you may benefit from both.
You don’t have to figure all of this out before you reach out. Ask a coach or therapist about their training, their experience with adult ADHD, and how they handle needs outside their scope. A good professional recognizes the limits of what they do. And notice whether they listen.
There’s also nothing wrong with deciding you don’t need coaching right now. The goal is to find support that fits your needs, not to collect as many professionals as possible.
If you want another take on this question, I also wrote “ADHD Coach vs. Therapist: Which Do You Need?.”
About This Series (and Working With Me)
This is part 2 of my six-part series on ADHD coaching. Last week I covered what ADHD coaching actually is and what happens in a session. Next week: Does ADHD coaching actually work?
If what you need sounds more like coaching, I’m reopening my group coaching program in November. Join the waitlist to hear when enrollment opens: learntothrivewithadhd.com/services
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Listen to the full episode: https://learntothrivewithadhd.com/adhd-coach-or-therapist/
This post is for education only. It isn’t medical or mental health advice.
